The Humbling Art of Being Wrong

imagesThroughout our lives, we all meet those people who refuse to acknowledge they’re to blame for anything. They have developed a complex mental web that shields them from the humbling art of being wrong, netting away the need to accept consequences and the ability to sincerely apologize. I know a few people like that in my real life, including in my own family. I’ve tried to understand this strange blindness, and over the years have surmised the basic problem to be insecurity. Oh, on the outside, their words and body language are a flurry of smoke and mirrors, but if you remain focused on what’s beneath all the tricks, it is easy to see the fear.

There really is no need to fear being wrong. Being humble is much harder than being wrong, and a sincere apology has the ability to bond two people together stronger than the flowery-est of compliments. No matter how well you’ve developed your defensive thinking pattern, no one but yourself is fooled. None of us think we are perfect people, nor do we assume there are any on this planet, including you.

No, if you want to be considered a wise man or woman, being right all the time isn’t where you start. It starts by giving your own heart a cold, hard look beneath fluorescent lighting and acknowledging where you yourself have been the problem. It’s coming to the realization that admitting you aren’t perfect and apologizing doesn’t make you look weak at all. It makes you look honest… mature.. approachable…and trustworthy.

We all have the option to portray to the outside world an image of ourselves we hope they believe is true. Of course, over time, when you play act something not true long enough, you begin to believe your own lies. Or, we can decide to be authentic, and do the hard work of trying to be a better person today than we were yesterday.

You can’t change anything, though, without at first being able to acknowledge there is something in you that needs to be changed.

Be strong. Be humble. Be wise.

~ Bird


9 responses to “The Humbling Art of Being Wrong”

  1. Reblogged this on The Recovering Know It All and commented:
    I just got home from work. Looong day!! I read this from one of my blog friends, one of my very first followers and follows on a previous iteration of my blog, and instantly wanted to pass it on. But alas, I had to wait till I got back home because my SmartPhone App isn’t nearly as smart to be able to reblog. Enjoy -KIA

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  2. I’ve known some.. well especially one person in particular … who find it extremely difficult to admit they are wrong. Somehow it’s always turned around so that the blame falls on someone else. Who on earth is never wrong? NOBODY.. that’s who!…. Diane

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  3. Good post, Bird. Here’s a funny thing- I’ve discovered that when I ‘hunt down’ my own wrongness, it actually helps my employees do a better job of doing that for themselves. It’s almost as if I create a safer environment for them to admit their own silliness if I knock down my own pedestal first. Go figure. Say, check out victoriasvisits over the next twelve days. Christopher and I are in China. XOXO.

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