So, yesterday was Chef’s first day of visitation, and I showed up. First, there were about 30 minutes of check-in time. Then, we all watched a video about our changing bodies….just kidding! Just seeing if you guys were paying attention! It was about the rules of visiting a loved one in a facility like this one. It took about 45 minutes, but it basically boiled down to: “Don’t be douches by smuggling drugs in to your addicted love one who is in here who are trying to become well again.” Seemed a little like stating the obvious to me. Who’d do that??
Finally, I was able to actually see Chef. It took him less than 3 minutes to say the rudest crap. He accused me of having an affair, stealing stuff from his truck, and some other nonsense. I got up and walked out.
Now I understand the video!!! I know one addict that is a giant douche without his drug of choice! It was a waste of a couple of hours on a Sunday afternoon. But, Chef did learn that anything snotty said to me will instantly end the visit. Too bad he won’t get another shot at it. I’m not going back.
I’ve done all I can for this guy. I’m very peaceful about my part in trying to get him help. He’s on his own adventure now, and I’m happy to wipe the dust from my feet. In a way, I’m excited that this all is happening now instead of later. 2014 is going to be an awesome year!!!
Merry Christmas!!
18 responses to “Bird’s Rehab Rules of Engagement”
Merry Christmas
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Merry Christmas to you, as well!
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Stronger and stronger she flies. 🙂 Merry Christmas to you and yours.
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Same to you!!!
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You have done what you could do, now the only thing left is to leave it all with God, he knows, and knows you have done your part. Merry Christmas to you and yours, and 2014 will be an awesome year!
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I agree. Merry Christmas to you too!!
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Sounds like Chef’s treatment of you at the visit was like a big exclamation mark at the end of the words “the end”.
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Amen to that, sister!
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You have been through it all…. and he needs to count on himself….finally….. Merry Christmas Catherine… and for you and me I hope for a wonderful 2014… It’s been a tough year… Diane
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You are absolutely right, Diane. 2014 is going to be our year. I love you! Have a wonderful Christmas!
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Good for you. You’ve got to protect your own well-being.
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I love your writing so much. And I wish you Merry Christmas!
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My dear Bird, you are really getting ready to leave the nest and fly! May 2014 be filled with health, happiness and hope in all ways for you. Stretch your wings with joy.
xo
Kathryn
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Hi Bird, Haven’t dropped by for awhile…appreciated this post, though very, very difficult for you to go through–thank you for writing about it! I hope you have a great 2014! Ken
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I am feeling pretty good about this year. How about you?
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Doing well, thanks! Our youngest is studying in Russia, so we’re now officially empty-nesters, which is definitely taking some readjustment! I had my last chemotherapy treatment in May, concluding a 5-year dance with cancer. I’m actually starting to believe that I can buy green bananas, and live to eat them. So, all in all, things are looking great! Thanks for asking, Bird!
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Wow. That is a lot to process, Ken. Empty-Nest Syndrome nearly wiped me out all by itself. I can’t imagine dealing with cancer, chemotherapy, and a kid in Russia too. You’re a beast!!
I think you should throw caution to the wind and plant a banana tree. This year is going to be joyous!!
I’m glad you are healing and getting stronger. It’s good to have you back!
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