The Prize for Being Right

I’ve often talked about my family

on this blog. The parties involved in this post will know themselves immediately. We didn’t live in the ghetto long enough for you to be acting so ghetto! I’m laying this on really thick, so you two should not be able to miss a thing. 🙂
My mom often told me when I was a little girl, that it was more desirable to be graceful and merciful rather than right. I can think of numerous times throughout my life where I felt like I was in the right and the opposite party was in the wrong. However, I would concede and often apologized to some degree for my part in a disagreement. To me, it wasn’t lying. The Bible says that we are all guilty of bad motives; even our very best motives are like dirty rags in His sight.
You two are stubborn little brats; but I’m surprised at the level of stubbornness this has now reached. I love you both, but you’re both wrong. Each of you has a reason to believe that you are in the right, but as your mother, I can promise you, you’re both wrong. Completely.
In my entire existence on this earth, I’ve never known anyone to win a prize for being right, especially in arguments like these.
Satan, on the other hand, will reward this nonsense with a loneliness – a sense of loss –when you realize how stupid this particular argument is.
What really happened during this episode was that you two realized that y’all had grown up. You two are different people with different goals and different priorities. One is not better than the other. Only different. It’s hard for siblings to readjust and  learn to deal with each other when they move into adulthood. It happens to everyone. But instead of agreeing to disagree, you each remain firm in the thought that you each owe the other one an affirmation of your correctness. That’s stupid. & I didn’t raise stupid children.
As an example, let’s take a look at this post. On the surface, it looks like I am a good mother giving good advice to my two beloved children. The real motive here, should I be honest with myself, is that you two are making me crazy. I love you both, and you’re embarrassing me and worrying me. Surely I did better than this! This is Forgiveness 101!! See? There’s always a selfish motive at the root of everything that we say and do. It doesn’t even matter how embarrassing that is, it’s just a fact.
I’m asking you two to put aside the axes, and forget who is right and who is wrong. Neither of you have much wiggle room in either corner. And if you don’t, I will thump both of your heads. Don’t test me on this. You can’t get far enough away from me to be safe.
I would really like to know what the prize is for being right? I really would. Don’t give up a lifetime of benefits for something that is just a lie straight from the devil. And remember, there’s an entire family that is already broken from the last year and a half. We are all affected by each other. This is hurting all of us.
I know you both will make the right decisions. I love you very much. Pull your heads out of your butts.
love, mom