Old Roy Dog Food

I was going to write a year-end wrap up yesterday, but it didn’t happen because my son, who is also an addict, ended up over-dosing on his substance of choice and was hospitalized. It’s like I can’t escape drugs, even in my own apartment. He’s going to be okay, but I’m just exhausted from all of this.

I spent New Year’s Eve alone with my thoughts, and I reflected on something Vic had told

This is how I feel these days.
This is how I feel these days.

me when I was in Colorado. She told me that someone had told her that she needed a phrase that would bring to mind all the reasons she was finished with someone. It helped her to quickly get to the end of a train of thought about a painful subject. So, I thought about Chef and I came up with one of my own — Old Roy Dog Food.

Ironically, Chef was the one who had told me this story several years ago. It was about this brand of dog food called Old Roy Dog Food. He had instructed me to never buy it for our dogs because people had sued the company when their dogs had died after eating it. The irony of the story was that it wasn’t a harmful substance in the dog food that had hurt all these animals. It was the lack of anything nutritious. The dog food company had bought up all the scraps of meat and vegetables that weren’t used in good dog foods and used them to make theirs. It made for a very cheap product that people could afford to feed to their dogs. But, even though these animals were eating it, they were starving to death. Their stomachs would get full, but their bodies weren’t getting anything good to live on, and eventually they would die. The story really stuck with me, and from that moment on, I checked the ingredients of every dog food I bought from that day on, and I paid attention to how my animals responded to anything I gave them.

Chef is a master when it comes to telling me what I want to hear. He can be romantic, and over the last few months, he’s told me all sorts of things that, had they been true, would have helped me heal up quickly and salve the hurt he had caused. I’d have been writing posts about hope and reconciliation, not painful ones about betrayal and lies. But none of his actions backed up anything he said. None. There was the momentary “fullness” of being fed emotionally, but because there was no “nutrition” with the actions to back them up, I was still starving to death.

When I got back from my vacation, I was able to truly decide to be finished with the dog food he’s been feeding me, and to go to the Lord for the nutrition that I’ve needed. I believe that God wants the best for me, and if that should be in a married situation, He’ll provide the person that I need. He has never let me down, never starved me, never betrayed me. I’m peaceful in the knowledge that Old Roy Dog Food isn’t what He wants for me.

My message for 2013 is this: don’t keep “eating” something that isn’t going to be good for you. Get a different dog food. 🙂

Happy New Year to all of you! It’s going to be a better year for me. I have hope in that!

— Bird

27 responses to “Old Roy Dog Food”

  1. I love the message you shared in your post. I think we all, at some time or other, eat the wrong dog food, whether physical or spiritual, and starve, hopefully only temporarily, in some area of our lives. But you know the answer, as I do, and He will never let you down. His Word is full of true nutrition for the spirit and soul. “The joy of the Lord is your strength.” Nehemiah 8:10. I pray this will be your testimony throughout 2013. God bless.


  2. Except chef was wrong… Which seem o happen a lot lately, haha… I don’t think it was old Roy dog food that happened to…. I’ve always heard it was the Sunshine dog food plant in Dumas, Arkansas. It has no protein, only grains. Old Roy is produced by Walmart.. Sam Walton was a big dog lover, and even their cheapest bags have substantial protein for a dog to survive. I always have bought the mid grade old Roy for my big dogs… And they ate always fat and healthy and never die before ten years or older. Good dog food has higher protein, and ALL old roy has over 20%.


  3. I’m sorry that your time of way to refresh…was brought to an abrupt end with your son’s issue…

    I believe that you’re right in ending your marriage with Chef.(I was going to say ‘relationship’) but it’s more than that..and as you say he sometimes says the right words but nothing to back them up. I know it must be hard to realize that it is over..

    May your 2013 be full of many blessings whatever (and I know a few) they may be….Diane


  4. I have always been told when the year comes in like a lion it always goes out like a lamb. 2013 has started with a lot of hard things for us to swallow – your son OD, I had a seizurean but through Gods grace we all made it through. That gives me hope for the future!
    Happy New Year Bird, we do love you!

    ♥ Ed ♥


  5. Oh, good Lord, wish I could “Love” this post!

    “But none of his actions backed up anything he said. None. There was the momentary “fullness” of being fed emotionally, but because there was no “nutrition” with the actions to back them up, I was still starving to death.”

    I can identify with that sooooo MUCH! LOVE your dog food analogy, and I love the way you’ve summed this up: “Don’t keep “eating” something that isn’t going to be good for you. Get a different dog food.” That’s it, exactly. Perfect. Thank you, Bird! 🙂


  6. So glad to hear you’re sounding upbeat and positive, despite troubling circumstances or how things appear. God is good and He brings us through even the toughest times the better for them. There’s always a lesson there and then we can help others with what we’ve learned. Happy New Year, Bird. (hugs)



  7. “Junior High”. “Cake.” “Old Roy Dog Food.” Most excellent, my dear friend. Spot on analogy. How easy it is to fill up on something that is worthless, and find ourselves starving for the milk and meat of God’s word.
    Love you bunches!


  8. Bird, I’m so glad your visited my blog… otherwise I may not have found yours and read this post, which is so timely for me.
    You know, Bird… during my marriage, I fed and cared for my dog far better than I did for myself. I see that now. Great post!


  9. Awesome post. I love the way you face reality. You are so brave. I’ve been filling up on Old Roy lately. Doesn’t it feel good for a while — in fact, I’m still in that feel-good stuffed mood right now. I love the analogy. So spot on.


  10. No way! For real? Maybe the reason my dogs always were fat and healthy is I feed em a lot of people food, too. Of our two goofy exes, mine was the wrong one this time! Haha


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