Breaking Satan’s Power Over A Situation


Through all that has been going on lately, God has given me a beautiful peace. I have received help from unexpected places, and my future keeps looking brighter and brighter.


It was necessary, I think, that I had no contact with Chef for the time that I did. I know that being married to him for so long (most of my adult life), I had come to rely on him quite completely, and he on me. But the separation has made me learn to depend on the Lord for my needs, and not Chef. And during that time, I was able to reflect a lot on the dynamic of our relationship, and even some of the mistakes I myself had made in my life. I live in a glass house myself.  Turns out, after that time of crippling pain, God was able to take the forgiveness I was trying to force myself to do, and bring it to fruition. I have indeed forgiven Chef and T.


The truth is that my marriage is pretty much dead. I’m not saying that God can’t resurrect that which is lifeless, but I don’t know if I see that in my future anymore. My new, more important hope for Chef now is that he is able to find the Lord, on his own, and understand the true blessings that come from trusting the only One in the universe that can truly be trusted.


Chef and I are at peace with one another again, in a friend capacity only. We are splitting things equally, and trying to make things easier on the other person as much as we can. I have not stepped in the Lord’s territory, because I’m only able to help in very small ways, and since I’m trying to love my neighbor as myself, I don’t turn him down when I can help a little. The sense of being enemies is just gone for me. I don’t feel like he is some heartless enemy any more, and we’ve had long discussions about T, who sounds like a very baby Christian who has not been taught well by those who were pastoring her. She knows lots of sermons, but very little about what the bible actually says. And of course, the teacher in me rises up, and I find myself giving her verses to explain things now. And I’m not talking “revenge verses” about adultery, but instead the difference between grace and the Law. She didn’t understand grace, so her guilt was tremendous about what she had done to my marriage. She’s been a very abused child, and in my opinion, still is, so I can now see the attraction she felt for Chef. She’s been left unprotected most of her life, and Chef is a good protector if he cares about you. I don’t condone what they’ve done, or are doing now, but I can show mercy, because I kind of understand how all of us were deceived by satan.  And mercy, my friends, encompasses a multitude of sins…I need all of it I can get! 🙂


If that isn’t true forgiveness, I don’t know what is. And considering how horribly I dealt with this in the beginning, it has to be a gift from the Lord. I thought I’d never feel forgiveness for them. Oh, I was determined to forgive alright, but I thought it would take years before I’d actually feel it. Nope. This seems to be a permanent forgiveness in my heart, and it has to have been planted there by God.


I no longer care about seeing them together. In fact, he feels more like her partner than mine anymore. I am more interested now in finding the path that the Lord wants me on, and if that means being married again one day, He’ll be in charge of choosing the next man, because I totally blow at picking for myself!!


Chef told me that he was kind of freaked out because for a professing Christian, she seemed to not know much about her beliefs. He was amazed because things that I’d tried to teach him would pop into his head, and he was able to give her instruction. And as this had been happening a lot lately, it, in turn, was making him miss God.


I love that because of T’s thirst for knowledge about God, which is awakening in her, Chef in turn, is starting to look for the Lord as well. That makes me feel hopeful for both of them. If it took something like this to save two people and bring them into the kingdom, I’m at peace with it. We are supposed to be laborers bringing in the harvest, not living happily married Noodle Salad lives.


Please always keep both Chef and T in your prayers. God can turn any evil into something good, and I pray that He breaks satan’s neck with the beautiful things that can come out of this. And I hate satan, so every time Jesus kicks his butt, I’m delighted!


17 Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. [o]Respect what is right in the sight of all men. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. 1Never take your own revenge, beloved, but [p]leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 “But if your enemy is hungry, feed him, and if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:17-21








22 responses to “Breaking Satan’s Power Over A Situation”

  1. I have mixed feeling about this post. I love the forgiveness, but don’t know about the constant interaction. But I know you were married to him for a long time…Just my opinion. Sometimes we take the grace thing just a little too far. lol Forgive me Catherine.


  2. Sounds like you are coming through the storm and it is almost time for your rainbow. There still may be difficult times, but I heard someone say, it is not what you go through, but HOW you go through it. Still praying for you and Chef. 🙂


  3. Dear Bird, reading your words also instilled a feeling of peace within myself as well. I am so glad that you have come to this point in life. Some people never forgive and live their lives in their own self-induced hell because they chose to see themselves as victims. I was chastied yesterday because of the last post on my blog, because yesterday was the ex’s birthday and I wrote about it and how I gave myself to him 30 years ago on his birthday. I do not hate him–I understand he is sick and I too pray that God heal him. I do not think I could be with him again but hate in my heart does not serve me. And because I could not say ” I hate Him” this person thought I was going against them because they still have anger towards this person. Your post and your words make me feel as if God is talking to me and that my choice to follow the path of forgiveness and peace is the right one for me. I still love this man in my heart for the good things he has done. I just no longer hate him for the bad he has done. That is between him and God.

    Once again thank you for your words. You have no idea how much you connect to others through them.



  4. I salute you. I am divorced and my former husband is still a good friend. He is the father if my children and the grandfather of our grandchildren. Only through God’s Grace and Mercy have we been able to do this. When I met my current husband who I love very much, I told him of the role of my former husband and although I was the one who left, who asked fir the divorce, we were and are on friendly terms. My current husband is secure in my love and we are able to go exist with my former husband at grandchildren birthday parties etc.

    We are to forgive az we have been forgiven. I praise God for your obedience and your willingness to be a vessel for His grace and mercy to flow to Chef and T.

    God is blessing you.


  5. Wow Bird, You are bounding through the stages of this in giant leaps! Good for you! Praise God! Keep on your armor and be aware that forgiveness comes in waves and there will be times when the enemy will try to remind you of pains and bring anger out to play. I only know this because 7 years after experiencing this same situation I still get under attack. I am so very happy for you to have found some peace through this awfully difficult situation. I love how you said you would let God choose your next Husband because you “Blow’ at picking them! Hahaha That is exactly what I said to God 13 years ago!! He did pick the best for me, I would never have foreseen the future I have had with my man, NO WAY! And alone I would never have made it through and gotten to the treasures on the other side of our own tragedies.
    God Bless you so much my Dear Sister, I am so filled with Praise to God for you! Praying for Chef & T to find truth amongst the lies they have been hearing for too long!! And for the strength of the Lord to pull them through and into His will!!


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